Isolation and Giving Up on Expectations

Common advice for people who have faced injustice, abuse and loneliness is not to expect anything from other people as they do not owe one anything. This mantra is commonly repeated for relationship failure and, in a sense, puts the responsibility for negative emotions of the evolutionally hurtful act of ostracization on the person who is being hurt. The act of not expecting anything from the world is presented in pop psychology and self-help as a possible act, but in practice true detachment from worldy needs and wordly pain which target our base instincts is not easy.

I personally do not believe people when they say that they live with this idea of non-expectation in mind. The people who say that they are not expecting anything are typically rather well-off and an expection of the status-quo is a fundamental bias in all people.

How do I live without prospects? I try to live my best life daily, try to be responsible, and hope for the moment when I do not need these things hypocrites say I do not need.